By Father Peter Choy Wai-man
Last week, I attended a three-day learning camp centred on pastoral care for the elderly, which proved to be an inspiring experience. The ageing population is not only a global trend but is especially apparent in Hong Kong. With rising life expectancy and shifting family structures, individuals, families, and society as a whole are encountering unprecedented challenges.
As a priest, I am often called to accompany the elderly and the sick, yet this camp prompted deeper reflection on how the Church’s pastoral role should respond in an ageing society. It also encouraged me to contemplate my own journey towards ageing.
The topics discussed—such as dementia, advance medical directives, palliative care, and green funerals—left a lasting impression on me. These subjects reminded me that contemporary pastoral care extends beyond traditional sacramental services; it demands a combination of professional knowledge, empathy, and awareness of social resources. Only by thoroughly understanding these issues can we offer meaningful companionship and support to the elderly and their families during their most vulnerable moments.
Particularly moving was the acknowledgment of the reality of ageing faced by priests themselves. Ageing among the clergy of the diocese has become increasingly evident. Listening to fellow priests share their experiences, concerns, and hopes made me acutely aware of my own limitations and vulnerabilities.
This realisation was both humbling and liberating. It reminded me that, one day, I too will need care, understanding, and companionship from others.
The camp also emphasised the importance of collaborating with various organisations, such as Caritas and elder-care homes. Pastoral work is never a solitary mission. Only through cross-sector cooperation can the Church provide comprehensive care that respects the dignity of the elderly and addresses their physical, psychological, and spiritual needs. Such collaboration enriches the essence of pastoral service and enables the Church to embody a spirit of love and inclusivity in a more tangible way.
Equally important, the camp reminded us to pay attention to the needs of carers. Many carers bear considerable stress and fatigue while caring for their loved ones over the long term, often without recognition.
Additionally, emphasising the mental, emotional, and spiritual health of priests made me reconsider the balance between caring for others and caring for oneself. Only by looking after ourselves can we sustain our pastoral service without becoming depleted.
Overall, the learning camp helped me view the reality of ageing from a different perspective. It is not only a social issue that needs addressing; it is also a life journey that deserves to be embraced with faith, compassion, and hope.
This experience deepened my sense of pastoral responsibility towards the elderly, caregivers, and fellow priests. It encouraged me to trust more in God and to openly welcome my journey of ageing, accepting the support and companionship of my community.
